Introducing Caroline Stanbury
Meet Caroline Stanbury, British businesswoman and reality television personality. She is best known for appearing as an original main cast member on Bravo's reality television series Ladies of London from 2014 until 2017 and The Real Housewives of Dubai since its premiere in 2022.
Caroline is a wife, mother of three and philanthropist. Once divorced but now remarried to a younger man and love of her life, she is living life unapologetically and to its fullest potential. On her podcast she talks to celebrities, experts and guests from all walks of life to share their insights, experiences and empower her listeners to thrive in every area of their life.
“I am an Entrepreneur and a Reality TV star. I have since also ventured into having my own podcast, Uncut and Uncensored. Most recently, I've taken an exciting step by launching "Bust the Label," a lifestyle brand that aims to challenge conventions and empower individuals to embrace their uniqueness. This venture signifies my dedication to breaking free from societal labels and nurturing self-expression. It's an extension of my journey as an entrepreneur and a public figure, merging my interests in business and personal growth.”
What do you think was the greatest source of stress during the process of your divorce?
The divorce process was undoubtedly a trying period in my life, and the most substantial source of stress came from several fronts. Firstly, it was managing the well-being of our children, who were deeply affected by the changes in our family dynamics.
Secondly, there was the emotional turmoil of all parties involved, as divorce can trigger a complex mix of feelings like anger, grief, and uncertainty.
Maintaining a positive mindset amidst these emotions was challenging but crucial. There were also the logistics of moving houses, which brought its own set of challenges.
Perhaps the most pressing concern was financial stability. The uncertainty of post-divorce finances weighed heavily on my mind, as it does for many individuals in such situations.
What advice would you give to women to best prepare mentally and practically for an upcoming matrimonial breakdown?
Preparing for a potential matrimonial breakdown, whether mentally or practically, is a matter of resilience and planning. Firstly, always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and the intensity of emotions will gradually subside. While it's essential to acknowledge and work through your feelings, don't let them define your future.
Maintaining open lines of communication with your ex-partner, especially when children are involved, is vital. Divorce should not be seen as an end but rather as a transition, and maintaining a civil relationship can make this transition smoother.
Financially, it's essential to take control of your situation. Plan for your financial independence and security, even before divorce is on the horizon. Develop a robust financial plan that considers your post-divorce needs and goals. Seek professional advice if necessary to navigate the financial aspects effectively.
Were you concerned about your finances following your divorce, and how did you manage this?
Yes, financial worries were undoubtedly a concern for me post-divorce, just as they are for many individuals in similar situations. I firmly believe in maintaining a resilient mindset, and my approach was to work diligently and take control of my financial situation. While there may be temporary setbacks, I never allowed money to dictate my decisions or overwhelm me. Instead, I focused on building financial stability through hard work and sound financial planning.
It's essential to assess your financial situation realistically, create a budget, and set financial goals that align with your new circumstances. Seek the advice of financial experts if needed to make informed decisions. The key is to take charge of your finances and not let them become a source of ongoing stress.
How would you have liked to divorce differently?
Looking back, I don't believe there's an ideal time for a divorce. Life often presents us with unexpected challenges, and divorces can happen at any moment. Rather than dwelling on the timing, it's more productive to focus on how you respond to the situation as it unfolds.
Divorce is seldom a well-timed event; there are often blindsides and hurt involved. In my experience, it's better to adapt and learn from the process than to second-guess timing or seek to control the uncontrollable.
Divorce is a journey, and we must navigate it with resilience and grace, regardless of when it occurs.
What risks do couples face as they get married?
Entering into marriage is a significant life decision. Communication is at the core of a healthy marriage, and a lack of effective communication can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Truly listening to each other's needs and concerns is essential.
Differing life goals and aspirations can also pose a risk to a marriage. Before tying the knot, couples should engage in honest conversations about their long-term plans, ambitions, and expectations. Ensuring that these align or can be reconciled is crucial for the long-term.
Another often overlooked area is financial discussions. Many couples avoid talking about money, but it's essential to have open and honest conversations about finances, including financial goals, spending habits, and savings plans, to prevent financial stress from straining the relationship.
What advice would you give to a woman currently going through divorce?
For women going through a divorce, I would emphasise the importance of maintaining a friendly relationship with your ex-partner, especially if you have children together.
Co-parenting can be challenging, but it's in the best interest of the children to have both parents involved and on amicable terms. Keep the lines of communication open, even if it seems difficult. Additionally, seek emotional support from friends, family, or a therapist.
Divorce can be emotionally taxing, and having a support system can make a world of difference in your well-being.
Financially, take control! Plan for your future independently. Don't rely solely on your ex-spouse for financial stability. Create a budget, set financial goals, and consider seeking advice from financial professionals to ensure you are making sound financial decisions.
Remember that the process is challenging, but with time, it will get easier, and you can emerge from it stronger and more resilient.
WEALTH
Describe your relationship with money and personal finance in three words?
My relationship with money can be summed up as challenging, motivating, and complex. It's a constant journey of navigating financial ups and downs, finding motivation in my financial goals, and dealing with the intricacies of personal finance.
What is your definition of Wealth?
Wealth, in my view, means having the financial freedom to pursue your desires and aspirations without constraints. It's about having the means to live life on your terms, make choices that align with your values, and enjoy experiences that bring you joy and fulfillment.
What did you learn about finance and money when you were growing up?
Growing up, I learned the importance of hard work and the value of saving. I learned the discipline of working for what I wanted and the patience to save up for my goals, even if it meant waiting for the right moment to achieve them.
The best investment you have ever made?
One of the most rewarding investments I've made was my first real estate purchase in Al Barari after my divorce. It not only provided financial stability but also served as a symbol of my resilience and ability to create a new chapter in my life.
What is your number one financial priority?
My foremost financial priority is to ensure that I can lead a fulfilling life, including the ability to travel and explore the world. Additionally, I am dedicated to diligently preparing for retirement to secure financial stability in my later years.
How often do you talk about money with your friends?
Money is not a frequent topic of conversation among my friends, unless it relates to investments or starting a business. We tend to focus more on personal experiences and shared interests.
Which area of finance do you wish you knew more about?
I have a strong desire to gain more knowledge in the area of financial planning for old age. Understanding how to secure financial security and independence in retirement is a crucial aspect of personal finance that I'm keen to explore further.
What would you tell your daughter about money?
I would advise my daughter to always strive for financial independence and to actively manage her finances. It's essential to never rely solely on someone else for financial security, as having control over your own financial future is empowering and liberating.
WELLNESS
What do you do to relax?
To unwind and relax, I enjoy pilates, massages, and guided meditation. These practices help me disconnect from the daily hustle and find moments of calm and self-care in my busy life.
How do you balance running a business and motherhood?
Balancing entrepreneurship with motherhood is an ongoing effort, and perfection remains elusive. Like any mother, I do my best to find harmony between my roles. It involves effective time management, setting priorities, and seeking support when needed to ensure both aspects of my life thrive.
What is the most important life lesson you have learnt?
The most valuable life lesson I've learned is to always maintain control of your own finances. Regardless of your partner's wealth, what's not in your account isn't truly yours. Financial independence is a fundamental aspect of personal empowerment and security.
Do you have a mentor or inspirational figure that has guided or influenced you?
I've been fortunate to have several influential mentors who have profoundly impacted my journey, including Nadia Zaal, Kat Cohen, Lisa B, and Nicole Walters. Their guidance, wisdom, and support have played a pivotal role in shaping my entrepreneurial path and personal growth.
What is a quote that you live by?
A motto that guides my life is, "Change your mindset, change your life." It reminds me of the power of perspective and how our thoughts can shape our reality. Additionally, the notion that "you're not a tree; if you don't like your circumstances, move" inspires me to take control of my destiny.
What is the most impactful book you’ve read in the last year?
The book that has had the greatest impact on me in the past year is "You Are the One" by Kute Blackson. Its powerful message of self-discovery, personal growth, and the ability to shape one's destiny resonated deeply with me and influenced my outlook on life.
If you weren’t doing what you do… what would you do?
As an entrepreneur who enjoys wearing multiple hats, I relish the diversity of tasks involved in my current path. However, if I were to explore an alternate career, I might delve further into real estate, as it's an area I find enjoyable and full of opportunities.
What’s next for you?
Looking ahead, I have authored a book that I hope will be published soon, allowing me to share my insights and experiences with a broader audience. Additionally, I'm fully dedicated to developing and launching ‘Bust The Label’ my lifestyle brand, and I invite everyone to join me on this exciting journey of growth and empowerment.
Top 3 Instagram accounts to follow?
Top 5 Instagram accounts to follow?
@Nicole Walters
@Susan Sarandon
@Nadia Zaal
